Dating or Finding partner on social media will never guaranty you the genuineness of a person whom you want to spend rest of your life with. Now comes to a question how one can really find their “Mr or Miss right” in a life that runs according to the hands of the clock??? There is always an inevitable conflict between two theories to find your right match through “dating” or someone with whom you “travel the world with”.
But since most people think you need to start at the bottom with dating, work your way up to marriage, then maybe think about taking some trips together instead spending time in dating sipping coffee in Cafe's or watching movies before you make up your mind, it’s hard to find someone who’s at the same level as you are in just few dates where you try to put your best foot forward to avoid any differences.
A person like me who is freaking wild, rambunctious, curious Unicorn, and my outlook on life is exactly reflective of the way I would choose my partner, relationship which curtailed only dating wouldn’t have ever worked for me…, before committing to someone do as many trips to be assured of what you are getting into… Being a feminist (not pseudo😊) I hate when I have to depend upon my partner to accompany me always or can support me in general by paying for everything. I have always been clear that I want a companion with the similar wavelength…its annoying for me if I had to only coordinate meals with my partner to catch-up at a restaurant few times a week. The most exciting quality I have been looking in my partner is to be as active and spontaneous as I am, I mean literally a person who can climb mountains or can travel to the most remote island with no cell phone service, but also simultaneously keep an optimistic attitude and concern about safety at the same time.
Though solo journeys can be exciting, empowering and worthwhile, a vacation with your adored can craft pleasurable memories, which you can relish forever. It is romantic and intrinsically stimulating that you cannot enjoy or experience all this at home. A walk on road with your partner is more enriching than candle lid dinner and shopping. This is the way you can know your partner, about his/her past life and about your future. Vacations, adventure trips, trekking, hiking, enjoying every moment is the best way to build a deep and meaningful discussions with your loved one can give you an idea which way this relationship will be heading. Travelling together open these inhibitions much quickly than dating with that person for months…You will come to know his/her much better and the level of understanding will also increase.
Now comes the question how to find the right travel partner, this can be a little trickier than you expect. Sometimes, even the closest of couples may find that they experience a little trouble in paradise… in paradise! Unhitching the happy home and taking it on the road may cause a little turbulence for certain lovely lovers. But this is the best way to test a person whom you are planning to spend your life with.
I can easily throw some pointers what one can expect on this travel journey, what are the ways to find/test your Mr./Miss perfect!
Travel surely make you tolerant and is the best way to polish your relationship. Throwing each other mutually in some unexpected conditions, where facilities are sparse are considered as one of the most excellent ways to test the patience and souls. You will explore more about each other during the travel and find out various ways that will tell about your compatibility and whether or not you both will be able to work through the testing times or not.
You will find out his/her patience level and adjustment! When you are traveling with your prospect there are always situations where you will be in a spot and might have to sacrifice or adjust to his/her needs…in such situations you can easily judge a person whether he/she is the adjusting types or not. If the prospect seems to adjust with you, then he/she looks like a match you can pursue further and also it’s a wonderful chance for you to show your comprise as well for him/her.
Empathy towards each other and also people around you - Traveling will bring the best of you infront of your prospect. Your liking or disliking will pass the differences together and help you fight the travel inconveniences together. It is always good to show your caring nature and empathy towards a person you likely to spend your life with, this will make your travel experience unforgettable for life and it will help to build the bond stronger. Here I am not just talking about empathy towards you but also people who are travelling with you or you meet around the place, when you are travelling you get to see the real character of a person…whether this person adjust with everyone or he/she the aloof types..It is a great way to start your new life knowing each other better.
You’ll see how you both react out of your comfort zone! When you both travel together then you will come to know each other’s flaws and plus points. It’s important to see how you both will react and give support to each other out of your comfort zone. This will be your relationship test and patience test. Travel is the best opportunity to test your both comfort zones, travel with loved one includes lots of sleepless nights and many more things. For eg. Going to an extreme zone (beat trekking or camping), you will see how he/she adjust into the new environment.
5. You may know how good he/she can be if you are Sick on the trip! There would be many friends taking your care in case you get sick at Hostel or at home, but this vacation can help you in knowing your partner if ready to help you while you both are on vacation. If he/she will sacrifice his/her time to stay in the hotel to take care of you. This can be a good test for you, predominantly if it means there is tons of stuff you mutually don’t find to do.
6. Exploration Pace Compatibility! Matching of Exploration pace between both partners is very important when you arrived at a new place. This will help you in knowing his/her habits. From the moment the Comfort Zone Escape Artist steps off the plane they long for the unknown. They want to have thrilling experiences and sample unique cultural cuisines....The Home Comforts Lover, on the other hand, spends the entire trip on the pursuit of, well… home comforts:-). They are talented at scoping out a well-known supermarket chain and have a keen scent for any restaurant selling chicken tenders and fries. A relationship between The Comfort Zone Escape Artist and The Home Comforts Lover may start to get a little uncomfortable a while into the travels. The Home Comforts Lover is sick of being told to ‘loosen up,’ while The Comfort Zone Escape Artist just wishes their partner would be more spontaneous...This is very important factor to consider. You must choose small weekend trips to check the pace at which he/she live his/her life. This will equivalent your life in sort for the relationship to work.
7. You can check his/her actions and reaction under pressure - While travelling you may often encounter unexpected situations like flight might get delayed, lift not working, or might be some strike on public transport, delayed Baggage, long queues/ long road trips. You can see how much patience he/she has while dealing with these situations. Even your patience is also important while testing his/her patience. These trips can show you the real colors of your partner while dealing with these situations.
8. You can check if he/she is an Adventure lover or A Beach Lover - You can know if he/she is the Adventure freak (love trekking or camping out with you under the sky with bonfire) or prefers to lie on the beach sipping his/her drink. You can know about him by these weekend trips. If you are the person who love adventure would love the partner with same mind set. However you must talk with your partner about the same as relationship only works with mutual understanding.
9. Explore each other - While travelling together you both will spend lots of time together like days, weeks or may be months. It means you both will do everything together, which will give you more chance to know each other and you will know more about him/her. His/her likes and dislikes, if he/she do something which you don’t like or vice a versa. You may find few surprises like he might be a good singer, or live to read books or enjoy walking or opposite like if he/she is involved in certain fishy things or anything else. Certain peculiar habits you only see when you live with that person.
10.The flamboyant and The Budgeter - While travelling with your partner, you can discover about his/her spending habits. You can compare your spending habits with his/her and if you find his/her habits are far better than yours then decision is yours. Relationships are depending on understanding and many more things. If you are one of those spends thrift and plan to fly First Class and always stay in 5-star hotels and your partner on the other hand, would rather take an 8-hour coach if it meant saving money, and is a firm advocate of a dorm room than believe me take a U-turn you probably face lot of problems if happen to stay in this relation. These kind of relationships never last for long as there will be many conflicts forever deciding the place/stay...
11. The Social Media buff or an attention seeker - Armed with a smart phone/DSLR and a heavily filtered Instagram account, The Social Media buff lives for the likes. Their motto is ‘pics or it didn’t happen’ and they always apply this to traveling. Their Instagram feed is full of candid photographs – hundreds of the classic back of the head shot looking longingly off into the ocean/ mountains. Posed ~naturally~ sat on top of a rocky mountain, gently flicking their long hair over their perfectly tanned shoulder. on the other hand The live in the Moment-er chooses memories over a full camera roll. They believe in capturing moments in the mind, not on a phone screen, and are truly exhausted of being asked ‘will you take a picture of me?’ On the Social Media buff’s Instagram, it seems they have a picture-perfect relationship, but while travelling, things get a little uglier!
12. The explorer or The City Swooner/The Night Owl and The Early Bird - Yup, I’m pretty sure you already know a couple like this! One partner wants to wake up at 2pm, and plan the night ahead. They head out every night around 10, stay out dancing until 4, and of course they’re staying in a party hostel (duh)! For the Night Owl, travelling is all about drinking, dancing, and experiencing the nightlife of a new place! However, if your partner is an Early Bird, he/she will want to wake up as early as possible and fill their day with activities... for them sleeping till late is a wasted time in their eyes. They crave sunrise yoga, long mornings at a museum, and they never miss out on the hostel breakfast! I’m not even sure how this couple met with such different schedules… probably Tinder/ hinge tbh :-)
I guess in my column I have defined most of characteristics in detail, now its upto you how you will find your best pal for lifetime…I’m not assuring you that even after all of the above there will be no fights/differences but you will tend to make up in due course, these trips are really romantic and helped many people to find their very own. These moments will help you understanding each other better where you end up creating lifetime memories, which you will cherish later forever. Believe me once you go one of these adventures, you will have answers of most of your questions. You will know if the person is right for you or not.
